Saravanan Sahadevan

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A Facebook spokesperson says “To simplify this a bit, users on Facebook cannot have more than one account and creating another account for the purpose of playing this game violates our Terms of Use. We recognize and appreciate that each person uses Facebook based on their own interests and preferences and are happy to see people meeting new friends on Facebook. To ensure users are comfortable on the site and not burdened by unsolicited contact, we encourage users to add people that reflect their real-world connections and create trusted networks.” - Michael Arrington, Techcrunch

Adding to the above, Facebook is actually saying not to fake accounts and please only use Facebook to Mirror the real you, and your real social graph. That means you are not encouraged to use Facebook to find friends or add people you really don’t know in order to purposely increase your friends list. Which completely makes sense and it is ethical.

Now there are a couple of points and questions that I would like you to ponder at below in regards of Why you should not abuse the Facebook social graph purpose.

It’s pointless - Well I ask you, do you know who you are adding? Does the person whom you added or going to add knows you? Is the relationship mutual in both ways?

It’s ain’t cool - Having 1000’s of friends? For what? Do you get the respond you need? Are you a valuable asset to the person you added and vice-versa?

It’s inappropriate - Why do you need to know unwanted informations such as the favorite movie or the favorite drink of the unknown person you added? Why are you making his or hers information irrelevant to you when you made an irrelevant move in the first place? However, you should be worrying about the person you are actually going to go out with in reality or at least some mutual connection in near future.

It’s not helpful - Are you sure you are going to get help or advise when you really need them from your 1000’s of friends list? Would they help you in any other way? For example, I have Chris Brogan in my friends list. He is not a direct contact of mine. But he did fall on my real social graph. Why? I followed him from day one. I made a mutual connection with him. I communicated with him. Eventually, he became an online mentor to me in a way. Now this relationship exist and therefore, it makes sense for me to add him.

In Conclusion - Be real, be you, be your social graph. That’s the only way, social media could help you and others.

I am not skeptical in adding friends. Well, if you have a reasonable reason to network, then it should go through. Think about it in this angle; Facebook is your contact memory of your brain in virtuality. It remembers everyone you know and would love to keep in contact with. Your brain would not store strangers wouldn’t it ? So why should Facebook do?

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The internet is way open that encourages various responds from people all over the world. But to everything there is a limit. Why limits? It’s simply because we want to grow a healthy community. One that helps and not leave ridiculous statements in this open space. It’s all about a community. Its a soul to any type of civilization. May it be real or virtual, it does not matter. 

Sometimes unmoderated, things may go wild. May it be technology, productivity or politics. Over here at Saranx.com, I certainly do enforce strict moderation as to ensure that every commenter in this blog has a responsibility to this community. 

Let’s look in depth on why such moderations are needed in communities such as saranx.com. 

• Heathy Community - Moderation helps a community to be more productive and heathy in sense of clean and with no vulgarism involved. Communities are often exposed to the young and therefore it’s one responsibility to encourage healthy habits to one rather than rage. 
• Maintaining Friendliness - It’s highly important that friendliness is taken into consideration when growing a knowledgeable community. This encourages everyone to stay on at a respected community. People with clear & clean mind. Souls with sincerity that throws wisdom in. 
• Encourages Help - A clean and respected community leads to a more sincere one. Therefore, this would encourage one to help another in a community. To share what is known and not to fake it out. 

Once, there is a common mindset evolved in a community, moderation would then not be necessary. The community has to be inclined with the style and flow of a creator. And when that is accomplished, everything shall be left to the hands of the community and let them to decide if a particular comment should be published or not.

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